In order to get better with whatever is going on you need to admit it to yourself first before you can fight it. Depression is like being a drug addict, an alcoholic or even someone with health issues. You have to be able to accept someone telling you are slipping and falling down in order to regain the ground you lost in the progress you made you need to say it admit to yourself. Like "I have gone backwards a bit but now i need to kick myself back in gear and regain the progress I was making." and if saying exactly what has gotten you to fall down then add it to your statement to yourself. You can not fight something and get better mental,physically or even from a substance if you do not stand up and say it and give what you are feeling a name. The people who care about you will understand you will fall but you do have to dust yourself off and be willing to redo what you have all ready done it will not take as long as long as every time you fall you can admit it. "It gets easier each time and takes less time to get back where you made it to." You will be better it just takes time and patience but this is something you need to do and think of it as an accomplishment just like reaching a goal which deserves a gold star. Yesterday myself I admitted this: "I have fallen off the positive horse I was riding and hit the ground now i need to dust off the negative thoughts off and grab those reigns and get back up on that positive horse." {It is the bigger person who can hear from the people who love you that you can hear them tell you you have fallen backwards and stand up and say yes I have let my depression get me down butI need to kick myself in the butt and not let it take over me.}
I think the simplest thing can make someone happy. Everyone thinks you need to have money to be happy but the truth is the richest people can be the saddest. If everyone could see just smiling at a person as you walk by you can make that persons day and then they smile at someone and it becomes contagious. I mean getting a letter in the mail can make someone's day because they were remembered and not forgotten. You can feel the emotion in the handwritten letter because a piece of them is carried in that letter and their writing. You can sense the happiness of something great happening in their lives to the sadness that they are feeling from them going through a hard moment in time. Yeah people text now, tweet, instant message or even email but there is nothing like spreading happiness and positive thoughts by writing by hand or even creating something by your hand it means more than some expensive thing at the store. I mean try just smiling and telling some hi as you pass by and watch how they smile and inside it makes you feel like the richest person by sharing it and passing that smile to someone else. It is a reminder you know even if I do not know you I like that I can make you smile by smiling and seeing you smile back.Try smiling , writing a letter or even making something and sharing it with someone and watch their face see how much you made your day by making theirs.
To me I have to reflect that if you want a friend I have been told you need to be a friend. I have this gut instinct to seem to know when I am talking to someone when they really need a friend whether just to listen or just be. Just this morning for example I knew a friend had a rough time dealing with her leg she had to have amputated. I had not heard from her all yesterday. so this morning since we are connected on facebook. I left her a message of good morning are you okay? she replied back in a way I could sense by her words she wasn't okay and she needed to talk. I picked up the phone right away and I talked to her being her sounding board and I understood she was having a hard time. The one person she had been friends with wasn't able to be there for her in the way she needed because that person was so worried that she would do something foolish. Well I said if you need me I am here since you were here for me and was able to confront me when you saw me going into a depression state I can do the same for you in return. I talked o her for a hour and a half and I was so glad I could make her smile and listen to her. I think in the end I did help her because she called me back after her phone died and after she straightened out things with our other friend it made her feel good again. I am glad when I can return something as so simple as just being a sounding board or just sharing a picture to make someone else smile I feel like the richest person in the world. You should try to pay attention when someone writes something to you and you know in your heart that something is not right call that person right away and check on the you may save them form themselves and make you feel good inside sharing your love and concern for that person you are friends with.
Accepting I find can be the hardest thing to do in life. I mean having a problem whether it is depression, drug addiction or even an alcoholic before you can get better you need to admit that you have an issue an name it. I find that you can only fight it when you accept it and can go and get the right help. I mean there are so many things we all have to accept themselves for who they are no matter what anyone says. We are the ones who have to live with ourselves with whatever choices we make. I know I have had a hard time accepting myself and admitting and accepting that I am who I am and that I do need the help from others. Over the past year and half I have come so far in my physical and mental health that some who have seen me over the years admit there has been a change and that I have learned to accept things that have happened and that I can not change the past but live for today and learn coping when the past decides it wants to creep back and get the best of me. I mean I have never come to grips that my biological father died five yrs ago and last year I lost the only dad i have ever known. Then, of course now i am dealing with my husband's father who just past a few days ago which has brought back the feelings of sorrow I feel for my own that I have never dealt with. I have tried to handle it the best way I can but the stress is getting the best of me but I know I need to stand up and admit that I am falling backwards but atleast I have people who care enough to kick me in the butt and stand and face me and say"You are falling backwards and your depression is taking hold of you and that you need to ask for help."This makes me feel good because alot of time we ourselves can not see somethings that are happening but others on the outside can and we need to accept their help and love of being able to tell us. It takes alot for someone to come to us and say we are going backwards instead of still going forwards. What we have to be is strong to accept that and re-evaluate ourselves and really say " I need help and can't do it alone and thank you for pointing it out. I need to fight for myself and get back on track." You are not being weak if you accept the help you need because everything is connected in someway in the world. If we can not be here for ourselves.how can we be there for the one we loves.
I do love me and I am strong because I have so many people who love me for me and are there to hit me with reality when I need it. I can accept what i can not change but accept the things I can change such as getting rid of drama and taking care of me so I can be there for myself and everyone I love.
Our children are the next generation and I think we are losing some of the great things we can have without technology and improve alot of peoples mental and emotional health by going back to the basics like handwriting a letter to the older generation.
I if you ever watched the Disney movie "WALL-E" it shows how technology makes us so lazy and we do not know how to function without it having robots doing everything we should be doing ourselves. I am not saying technology is bad it just really helpful in alot of ways but there are things we should still be doing on our own. Like it nice that books and newspapers are online and it saves trees in all. It does save time but we miss out on the smell of age of the books wondering how long it has been around. You do not have to worry about batteries dying. You can find your place easier and always know you have access to it when you hold it. I know technology keeps us connected with worlds we are not close to but we are taking away jobs of the postman/postwoman who deliver our mail. The handwritten letter is becoming a lost art form because everything is almost basically done by email,twittering, facebook, yahoo or any social type media.We as a society need to encourage kids to write letters especially to the older generation who feel alone because they like things done the old fashion way. They can feel the emotion and feelings from the person writing the letters. They feel connected and special. We take so much for granted that sometimes we forget the basic way of life is great too and need to now incorporate it more in our children so these things do not fade away like it never existed. I got so happy the other day because i can not afford to travel that I got to post cards from pen pals I made even agreed that due to some peoples finances that sending a post card from where they are and getting one in return is a great way to travel without getting discourage about not having money to travel and see these places themselves. Let's encourage our children to write to a family member or friend a letter and share something special or make your own post cards and give our postal workers something to deliver and feel important again. I mean everyone enjoys letters,cards, and getting something other than advertisements and bills. Lets connect our culture with other cultures and learn more by sharing ourselves by the hand written word. But make sure you know who you are writing to or find groups that are safe and start a pen pal group and share a smile.
#BE SAFE NO MATTER WHAT YOU DO ALWAYS AS PARENTS MONITOR WHO OUR CHILDREN WRITE TO AND CHECK OUT IF THEY JOIN A GROUP ON FACEBOOK TO DO PEN PALLING MAKE SURE YOU ARE AWARE OF THEIR FRIENDS ARE. THEY SHOULD HAVE SOME SUPERVISION WHILE TALKING ONLINE OR EVEN IN PERSON. KNOW YOUR THEIR FRIENDS AND ENCOURAGE POSITIVE FRIENDSHIPS AND DISCOURAGE THE ONES THAT MAY LEAD TO TROUBLE.#
Depression affects all of us once in awhile. I know for the past week I myself have kinda succumb to my depression. I have been dealing with so much and feeling like I am alone even though I am not. I want to apologize to everyone who has read my blog for not keeping up with it everyday like I have been. I like sharing my thoughts and I am glad to have the friends I have made because one of them told me yesterday if she did not kick me in the tush and tell me that I was heading for a deep depression. I even had my husband say hunny you are going backwards and not forwards. I have to force myself to realize that I have to admit that I am heading backwards letting pain,my body,stress get the best and control of me again. I am my own person and I can not let my body control me. I am worth it I know the diagnoses are and one I know i have to learn to live with them but not them control me.
I am glad so many people do care such as the friends in the group I am in at my counseling place. I know I need to tell the PA that I need to have my medications need adjustment so I can get out of this stupor I have gotten in. I know as long as there is a rope thrown down into my hole of darkness I can pull myself out because I do have great positive people in my life I can depend on. I know I can not be everything for everyone and that's okay because if I can not take care of me how can I take care of anyone else that I love. You need to surround yourself with positive people and basically people who truly love and accept you for you.
HERE ARE SOME POSITIVE STATEMENTS TO REMEMBER:
1. BE POSITIVE: DO NOT THINK NEGATIVE OR LET OTHER NEGATIVE HINGS TAKE OVER YOU
2.BELIEVE IN YOURSELF: YOU CAN DO ANYTHING IF YOU IF YOU BELIEVE
3.BE HONEST WITH YOURSELF AND EVERYONE YOU LOVE
4. BE TRUE TO YOURSELF: ACCEPT YOURSELF FOR WHO YOU ARE
5.BE STRONG : GET BACK UP IF SOMETHING OR SOMEONE KNOCKS YOU DOWN
6. BE YOURSELF: DO NOT PRETEND TO BE ANYONE BUT YOU
7.BE FAITHFUL TO YOURSELF AND WHAT YOU BELIEVE IN
8. BE FORGIVING : DO THIS FOR YOURSELF NOT FOR SOMEONE ELSE'S BENEFIT AND THIS WAY YOU
9.BE ABLE TO ADMIT WHEN YOU NEED HELP AND ASK FOR IT
10. BE SURE TO ALWAYS MAKE TIME FOR YOU AND ENJOY THE SIMPLE THINGS WE TAKE FOR GRANTED EVERYDAY.
*LAST BUT NOT LEAST YOU ARE IMPORTANT AS ANYONE IN THE WORLD AND YOU DESERVE TO BE LOVED AND ACCEPTED FOR YOU AND NOT WHAT PEOPLE WANT YOU TO BE. DO NOT LOSE SIGHT OF WHAT IS IMPORTANT TO YOU BECAUSE IF YOU DO YOU MAY LOSE YOURSELF IN THE END.*
It seems there is alot of great talent on AGT this season. I love watching and seeing the people put themselves out there and show America the hidden talent that would normally get unnoticed. I mean there is young guy who was disowned by his family just because he was gay and that he wanted to be a singer. I think he was brave to be able to show the world and be accepted for himself after he preformed his song. I loved it when Howie Mandel told Johnathan " that America and everyone in the audience was now his family and welcome home"
I find AGT's a great place to see all this surprising talents such as singer's with voices that you would not expect when you look at them. There are people who are daring and unusual in their acts. i mean there is even this year an escape artist who is a mother who had put her talent on hold in order to have a family and her husband stands behind her that is awesome. i mean ther was even a couple so far where the girlfriend/wife who tricked their partners into preforming and show the world their talent that is so sweet. I find America's Got Talent is inspirational and has given so many people over the years great opportunity to share their talents. I know there are some talents which are really unusual and really bad but got to give them props for being brave enough to share their unusual talents with the world. I can not wait to see what else they are gonna have this year.I just wish they would come to like Maine and audition some people from up here and see what we in Maine have to offer for talent. I do recommend watching AGT it is so wonderful to share the tears and the joy when the acts get to go further on the competition. Good Luck everyone who is on this show. I am glad there is a show like this for the everyday people to share themselves with the world. The judges this year are awesome and I am happy they now have four judges and that it is fair with 2 guys and 2 girls...I can't wait til next week.
