You need to ask yourself ,"Why can't we love each other and ourselves and our families the same? "
Can you answer that or is that something your mind won't allow you to be able to show or understand? WE ALL NEED LOVE TO GROW AND MAKE IT IN THUS WORLD.
However I have discovered by my life that in a family we need to make sure that we have a balance between love and discipline because someone can over coddle a child in order to protect them from hurt and abuse. I have done this in because I married into a controlling family where my father in law wanted to control our marriage and how our family was going to be and what we were able to do. He could not separate home,work or being in The ELK'S. Me that is did not fit because I did not want to be told what to do when to do it. I went through that during my first marriage and in that one I was not able to have friends or even see my family because he always thought i was cheating on him. I actually got kicked out of a state and sent to my mom because after my children were taken from me and my second husband because he left bruises on my son that were determined by an x-ray was painful at the time it had been done. I am telling you this because I think there is a lesson to be learned. But to get back my father in-law found a way to make up a story to get rid of me by having my second husband lie to the court and accuse me of threatening him with a knife and said I knew neighbor's who had guns. My friends and neighbor's weren't stupid enough to give me a gun and tell me they had guns. They would have tried to help u out in crisis because they all cared. Long story short I had 15 minutes to pack a bag and let my father in-law put me on a bus. (I tried for years to gain their love and acceptance..no luck) well the male cop asked me if I had money I told him no and so he gave me his last $20 in his wallet and told me not to tell my father in-law. I was not allowed to go to the shelter or to friends or even to the neighbors I had to go. I called my mom because I was being sent to her from Pennsylvania and she was in Maine. She got told the same thing I did and so I peacefully left and knew in my heart I had done nothing wrong. {I had the night before had a nervous breakdown in front of my husband after a meeting to improve our marriage when he said he only reason he married me was because of the children and that he did not love me.} Oh that hurt that night. I was so hurt I went and got to the station my father in law bought the ticket and he and my brother in law watched me get on the bus and made sure that I did not get off.( I felt like a prisoner and they were my guards) A sad when you think if you LOVE strong to make your family strong by sacrifice yourself in order to keep what you want in your life. But LOVE gets me through everyday and I can face everyday knowing though I do not have my children I see them and tell them and reassure them I love them and I want them.( They live with my mom due to me getting them out of foster care) As long as I have love in my heart I find the courage to keep loving people no matter what they are or who they are. Everyone needs love but a balance of discipline to so that way people can grow from the LOVE in life and try to make a difference in their own life by doing better. There are people who can't change themselves but we still need to be fair and love them still and show them right path of love and not hurt and pain or even hate.
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